I know I got tagged by Kim & Katie and I’ll get to that later today. Meantime, I just had to relay what we saw last night and ask a question.
I didn’t post here about how we found out, on Christmas, that Frank’s sister’s husband, who had cancer, had it spread to his brain. Mel spent Christmas taking him to the ER. On the day of my brother’s funeral, after that was over with, Frank drove up to the Bronx to be with his sister while her husband was put into a hospice hospital. (Not sure if that’s the proper term but you know what I mean.)
With having my SIL & nephew here and then being sick, I didn’t get to the nursing home to visit my MIL or over to the hospice place to visit BIL until yesterday. (Don’t worry – This is all going somewhere & isn’t just rambling.)
I’ve been lucky enough never to have needed to go into a hospice care facility up until now so yesterday was my first time. Now here is what I found insane. On our way in and on our way out, we saw several groups of people standing outside smoking.
What the hell is wrong with people?? You’re in a place where people are dying, many from that very thing and you’re out there smoking? I know it’s an addiction but get a freaking nicotine patch or something. Maybe I have a little anger because that’s why BIL is in that place and because smoking was 1 of the many contributing factors in why my brother died. But damn, if being in that place isn’t enough to scare you into quitting, I don’t know what is.
Okay, every once in a while you will find a rant here. This is my January rant. Now back to your friendly, funny blog….
Nicotine is an awful, legal drug.
I have had a lot of interaction with hospice and I hope you and your family have a group of hospice workers that make everything easier for you. I usually really appreciate hospice and they do a great job. We did have one bad experience with them but I think that was a one time problem.
The staff in this place seems really good. Melanie (Frank’s sister) has been staying over every night & they put a cot in the room for her.
I KNOW–WHAT KIND OF INSANITY IS THAT? And what really chaps my hiney is if the group of smhookers is also a group of workers from the hospice. Every time I would pass the “smoking cubicle” on my way into the hospital to see Bill and I would notice everybody sitting around in their scrubs, furiously puffing away, I just could not believe it. What will it take for these people. On May 10, it will be 10 years since I quit. I loved smoking, loved it from the first time I did it. If I can quit, anyone can. And to be honest, it wasn’t anywhere near as hard as I thought it was going to be. And I didn’t use any nicotine replacements either. So it’s just a matter of wanting to quit, really. If those people don’t have a serious NEED to quit after visiting loved ones in hospice, then nothing will help them.
Yeah, well, I ESPECIALLY WISH IT WAS YOU WHO MOVED BACK TO LAKEVILLE AND GOT A NEW JOB AND STARTED STALKING ME. If it was you, it would be okay. And you’d comment (because you can’t help yourself, what with your wittiness and all), instead of just lurking in the shadows being creepy. If it’s who I think it is, she had no interest in me and what was going on with me for 38 years of friendship, so why now. That’s just gross and, if it’s her, she shouldn’t do it anymore. There, I said it.
It’s very disheartening isn’t it? My mom nearly died from a smoking related “incident”. It scared her into quitting for about a year and now she smokes again. It bothers me SO much, but it’s not me so what can I do?
I’m sorry about all the bad news around your home.